Coping with a frustrating disease

In an earlier post, I described my experience on alternative diagnosis for patients who have pheo symptoms but without pheo. Most patients cope with their conditions very well and go on with their lives. A small number of patients would see multiple physicians, get numerous tests and imaging studies, and try all kinds of medications, herbs, or behavioral therapies, just to get a definitive diagnosis and to get back to their "perfect" health. As a pheo specialist, I am often the doctor who tells them not only they don't have pheo but a clear diagnosis cannot be established. I explain that further diagnostic work-up is unlikely to yield a definitive diagnosis. I then discuss the skills of coping with a frustrating disease.

First of all, these patients do have a disease. And the disease is not their fault. They just simply have it and they have not done anything to make the disease afflict on them.

Second, medicine has its limits. In spite of the ever-growing progress in medicine, there are many things we don't know in medicine. Sometimes, a definitive diagnosis cannot be reached no matter how hard one may try. We have to wait for the disease to fully reveal itself over time.

Third, look at the brighter side. Although we don't know the diagnosis, we do know that it is not a bad one. It is not cancer, not heart disease, not a disease that will cost a limb or organ, and not deadly if the symptoms have been going on for many years.

Lastly, the most important issue is coping with the disease. What is the purpose of perfect health? What are the important things in life? Can one pursue the goals in life with the disease? What limits one from doing the desired things? The best approach is to focus on functionality rather than on perfect health. If one can do the things one wants to do, that's not too bad even with the disturbing symptoms mimicking pheo. I like to use a car metaphor. Most of us want to have fancy expensive cars but most of us cannot get those cars. If we keep lamenting on the lack of those cars, we lose the purpose of life. Those of us without fancy cars will get a car we can afford with the functions that we think are the most important. Then we drive the car to do the things we want to do. Simply owning a fancy car won't necessarily drive us somewhere.

Dr. Pheo